I found an interesting article on sexuality and sociopathy recently.  Sociopathworld was created by a self-proclaimed/confessed sociopath advocating the acceptance of sociopaths’ viewpoints on life–it makes fascinating reading.  Sociopaths lack the ability to feel emotion in the way that ‘neuro-typical’ people do and have no sense of empathy, identity or commitment outside of their own agenda.   I’ve a particular interest in this pathology, along with narcisissm, having crossed paths with a number of these folks and their self-interest.  The tendency toward highly rational and logical thinking is something I find attractive, along with their propensity for risk-taking and indestructibility.  They also seem to get by without much sleep.  Ultimately though, if you’re a person with actual feelings, any attachment to someone without them is a slippery slope.

I recently had an interlude with a sociopath.  He was particularly charming and quickly identified my needs and desires and adapted to them.  I had the feeling all along that he wasn’t completely sincere in what he was saying, but said to myself that that could be many people.  He was overly complimentary, obliging and considerate.  Other warning signs were there: prior gambling addiction replaced by heavy smoking, extreme risk-taking in business and persinal activities, sexual promiscuity, infidelity.  He was also very funny, energetic, dynamic and capable.  He was honest about what he had to offer, I’ll give him that.  But I soon caught him out in a complex and detailed lie and confronted him on it, only to have him deny everything before saying he didn’t have time to deal with these sorts of things.  It was bemusing and somewhat annoying to have what seemed like a good thing, ruined.  I guess it never really was what I thought it was anyway.  Here’s an academic essay on the sociobiology of sociopathy.

Sex Histories of American College Men was written by Doctors Phyllis and Eberhard Kronhausen in 1960 (Ballantine Books, NY).  It’s based mainly on the personal histories of around two hundred students at an all-male college where Phyllis Kronhausen taught a Marriage and Family Life Education course during the 1950s.  The following excerpt is a quotation from one student in  a chapter entitled ‘Sex Without Love’:

While I was”playing” around with other girls during my relationship with ____, I learned much more about sex in a practical manner.  As I mentioned before, I went to dancing school after the regular high school day.  There, all kinds of girls took lessons.  I found many of these girls were wild.  One of the other boys in the dancing class told me of his experience with a girl named _____. He related to me how easy it was for him to get anything he wanted from her.  He was now finished with her, and told me that I could get her to like me quite easily.  He was right, for in a few days I was making out with her up on the roof of the building …She invited me over to her house one night so that we could get to know each other better …Within ten minutes after arriving, I had removed every vestige of clothing from her body.  It was the first time I had ever seen a girl’s body in the nude.  I petted with her below the waist, which was also a first for me.  The thing I remember most about that evening was how disgusted I was with that particular sexual play.  I nearly vomited from the feeling I experienced.  Suddenly, she unzipped my pants, and proceeded to masturbate me.  I rather enjoyed this compared to what had transpired before this.

After this night I never went to her house again because I had definite guilt feelings about having sex with a tramp.  A marked change had come over me because of the influence that she had exerted over me.  I now felt that it was much better to have sexual experiences with nice girls instead of tramps.  And although I still had the utmost respect for nice girls, I wouldn’t hestitate to have sex with them (p215).

And:

One further statement about my beliefs about girls and how you should act towards them.  When I meet the girl I want to get married to and spend the rest of my life with, there won’t be anything I won’t do for her.  In other words, that’s the time that I’m going to change my whole attitude.  No longer will I say that my happiness comes first, and no one else matters, because my wife’s happiness will be my happiness (p217).

I’d love to hear some some thoughts and reactions to this little gem…

via The cman blog

There was a time when having sex in anything but the missionary position was considered a crime in America.  The original vibrator was created to relieve overworked doctors who were treating female patients suffering from ‘hysteria’ with stimulatory massage techniques. Find out many more interesting factoids about the criminalization of sex over the past few centuries in Sex Crimes Cabaret, an hilarious performance combining live music, film and spoken word.  It’s on in Tribeca, NYC for another week.

From French Vogue (Dec09/Jan10)